A Winter's Day Memory Test

Tales of the Whetstone River made its debut in this paper more than a year ago. From November 2019 to January 20, 2021 twenty columns have appeared. Previously blessed with a good memory, I find I’m increasingly forgetting things.

“It’s the pandemic. Because of the stress involved everybody seems to have lost their focus,” a friend reassures me.

“All of us, as we grow older, are having the same problem,” another person says.

Our brains begin to fill with memories the moment we’re born, though we can’t retain them until typically we’re three or four years of age. As we gather more and more, some are pushed down, making way for more recent ones, and in time we have layers and layers of “forgotten” memories.

“Misplaced” would probably be a more appropriate term, as in the frustrated cry by young and old alike, “Now where did I put my cell phone?” Recently when I visited my son, I heard my nine-year-old grandson asking, “Has anyone seen my iPad?”

I’ve written about geodes and ice fishing, angel food cakes and red maple blossoms, frogs and music. In so doing I’ve spotlighted acts of generosity and stubbornness, risk taking and common sense, and thoughtful time-consuming actions of love.

I hope you won’t think I’m presumptuous if I ask you, my reader, a few questions to test your memory. How much do you recall of those columns? Here are a few questions. For the answers, please see the bottom of this page.

1 What was almost lost on an ill-fated fishing trip?

a) fishing pail

b) winter gloves

c) ice house


2 What composer’s music was compared to nature’s sounds?

a) the Beatles

b) Brahms

c) Beethoven


3 What unusual plants did I care for on my terrace?

a) holly

b) weeds

c) avocados


4 What gift did my mother give my siblings and me each birthday?

a) stockings

b) angel food cake

c) a dollar bill


5 Which name is not a name of a brother?

a) Bob

b) George

c) John


6 Which town did I not travel to shop for clothes?

a) Aberdeen

b) Ortonville

c) Watertown


7 What was in the box from North Dakota?

a) oatmeal cereal

b) toilet paper

c) apples


8 What small, slow-moving creature made it across the road?

a) caterpillar

b) turtle

c) salamander


9 What scary thing lurked in the corner of the science room?

a) a rotten squash

b) a spider

c) a skull


10 What color did a piece of fabric and a waterfowl share?

a) orange

b) green

c) teal


11 What items did not make it safely from Illinois to Manhattan?

a) jars of jam

b) glass ornaments

c) tomatoes


12 What weed did my father hate the most?

a) dandelions

b) leafy spurge

c) thistles


Missed a column? Want to refresh your memory? More of my writing and all of my columns are on my website barbarascoblic.com.

Now, where did I put my cell phone!

ANSWERS:

1. c

2. c

3. b

4. b

5. b

6. a

7. b

8. c

9. c

10. c

11. a

12. b

Passing Holiday Recipes on to the Next Generation

This year because of the pandemic I found myself alone in my apartment in Manhattan for the holidays. When I listened to the first Christmas carols on the radio, I began missing the dishes I prepared each year, including last year.

There were the stuffed mushrooms and the boiled shrimp with three sauces that I always served on Christmas Eve. The mushrooms had to be pure white. Finding twenty of the just-right size often required a trek to more than one market. Making them involved a series of laborious tasks. One year, in the interest of time, I substituted another recipe that required no scooping, chopping, sautéing, or basting, and that could be made in a quarter of the time.

As we sat down to eat, my youngest son asked, “Did you leave your mushrooms in the kitchen? If you tell me where they are, I’ll go get them.” He was visibly disappointed when I told him they didn’t exist. At the end of the meal there were several of the fake variety still on the serving dish.

Each Christmas Day the menu included turkey with stuffing and gravy, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, and, of course, my mother’s famous baked beans. This year when I began to feel sad, I remembered Christmas dinners of years past, especially the one two years ago when the existence of those much loved dishes had been in jeopardy.

My mother, who only had a small refrigerator, would place her freshly baked goods on our screened-in porch to keep them cool and fresh until the big days arrived. After those meals were enjoyed, she’d put the tasty leftovers out there too. South Dakota winters were as cold as a refrigerator, and reliably so.

In 1966, my husband moved from Chicago to Manhattan to take his first job. He was lucky to find a high-rise apartment in a lovely neighborhood that he could afford on his beginner’s salary. It had a large terrace and, though it was only a studio, there was plenty of room for a bachelor. It became a squeeze however when we were married. Then, after our first child was born, it was downright cramped. The alcove (we called it a “bedroom”) became almost all bed when a crib was added in the corner.

Meanwhile, the apartment next door had stood empty for more than a year. My husband, who loved to plan and build, had his eye on it. After months of negotiating and obtaining permits, we bought it and quickly hired a contracting firm to connect our original apartment to the new one. Just in time! Our second son was born a few months later.

With that, each child had a small bedroom, and we became the owners of two kitchens. We never used the second one that came with the new apartment for its intended purpose, but as a storage unit instead. My husband’s building materials and paint, the boys’ ice hockey sticks, sleds, the Christmas ornaments, all took up residence. And, of course, the combo fridge/freezer was perfect to store back-up food and beverages for our sons as they grew hungry teenager appetites.

The Other Kitchen was my own “screened porch,” right here in New York City…until that year. The extra refrigerator, installed when the building was constructed and now well past its 60th birthday, had died. What would I do during the holidays! There is the terrace, of course. But the temperature in New York fluctuates too much to give one any confidence in the food staying safe.

I thought of asking a neighbor for help. But most of the people I knew on my floor had long since left to winter in Florida. A friend who lives five blocks away offered the use of her refrigerator, but maneuvering through the busy neighborhood while carrying heavy casseroles would be treacherous on icy streets in the wind; attempting even that very short distance could mean disaster for the entire holiday.

I rang the bell at a new neighbor’s door in desperation and explained my predicament. She and her husband were about to leave for a few days, and she graciously juggled her food about to make room for my things. She left me her keys, and my sons and I ferried containers of food back and forth across the hall all Christmas-long.

The next year as Christmas approached, I noticed my helpful neighbors were nowhere to be seen. I didn’t have a contact number for them, and soon began to wonder if they’d decided to leave the city early. As the days went by, I realized I’d have to order and reserve the turkey soon. I started revising, paring down my menus with a growing sense of dread.

Our traditional Christmas Eve dinner would have to be served minus the baked mushrooms. The poached shrimp would stay, but unaccompanied by the three sauces I always made to dip them in. The tart cucumber salad that was a nice foil for the delicately flavored shrimp, would be sacrificed. The Christmas Day roast turkey, mashed potatoes, and dressing were non-negotiable. But the cranberry sauce could go. I’d be the only one to truly miss it anyway. Worst of all, in order to free up a significant amount of space, the baked beans made by generations of women in our family, and loved by all of us, would not be served. And would there really be enough room for the shrimp? I’d have to order fewer shrimp.

By this time, thoroughly disheartened, I began to revise my shopping list. Then, seemingly out of a scene from a Hallmark Christmas movie, I heard someone in the hall. I hurried out. There was my neighbor! Yes, she’ll be happy to help me again! There would be baked beans, after all, at our Christmas table that year.

Now this year, even though no one will be entering my apartment, I hung our wreath on the door. I began addressing cards. As carols and new holiday pop songs continued on the radio, I realized how bare my apartment would be without that must-touch-the-ceiling giant fir tree hung with decorations collected by my husband and me from all over the world, and a pang hit my heart.

In its stead and to honor the season, I placed a cluster of small tinselly trees, a few angels, and a carved wooden tree that my brother had given us thirty years ago about the living room. Then, having mailed Santa stockings to their appropriate destinations, I hung my lonely Santa stocking in its usual location.

The following morning I opened an email from my eldest son’s fiancé. Would I send the recipes for his favorite dishes? Of course, I replied. It’ll be an easy thing to do, I thought. Scan them and hit the Send button. But through all those years, I’d scribbled notes and changes of ingredients that I’d made in the margins. Handled so many times by hands that left smudges, they were almost illegible, even to me. I spent several hours deciphering and retyping before they were on their way.

No, I won’t be buying the ingredients, storing them at the right temperature, or making these memory-laden recipes this year, but in another kitchen, another will be recreating the Scoblic’s Christmas dinners.

Liking and Missing Things I Used to Hate

Yesterday when I was returning home after doing a few errands, I realized I missed the very things I used to hate. This remarkable experience is happening to others, as well.

When I talk to my family members and friends I hear variations on this theme.

My niece has told me many times about her boss. He’d call her into his office and, after giving her a new project with an impossible deadline, he’d keep her stranded there, with any chance of meeting that deadline slipping away, he’d veer off topic to the weather, not just the conditions in Colorado where the company is located, but a detailed state-by-state report. However these days, after months of working alone, she doesn’t get upset when the phone rings, her boss on the line, and she hears him rattle on about the weather. She’s happy just to hear another voice.

Another example: A friend of mine tells me that she hated using her apartment building’s communal laundry room. She’d go down at the crack of dawn or very late at night to avoid being forced to talk (or at least listen) to fellow residents. Now, after spending day after day alone in her apartment, she welcomes company in the laundry.

Then there is my friend, Jane, who volunteered to be a poll watcher because it would give her a legitimate reason to get out of her apartment. It was cold and windy the morning of November third. When she reported to her polling station at 5:00 a.m. (in order to receive instructions for the emergency hours which began at 6:00) there was already a block-long line of people waiting to cast their ballots. At the roll call she volunteered to be a greeter. Her duties included making sure the voters were at the proper polling station, and that each person or couple maintained a 6-foot distance. As my friend took up her position rain began to fall. It was slow going: voters had to be pointed toward the right stand or, if they’d received the ballot by mail, both external and internal envelopes had to be opened and their current signature digitally verified. The line wrapped around the block, and extended across the intersection and around the next block.

As the line crawled forward, people chatted with those next in line. The light rain suddenly became a downpour. Umbrellas were unfurled. Some had come doubly prepared, and offered the spare to those who hadn’t planned ahead. It became dark and a high wind picked up, but Jane continued to stand there because she was enjoying talking to the voters. Jane, who usually shuns chit-chat and only wants to hear educational discourse and well-reasoned arguments, says it was her happiest day since the pandemic restrictions began.

Others whose work keeps them grounded at a computer for most of the day used to resent when they were interrupted, tell me they now miss that hand on the shoulder and a warm greeting. Small talk has become big.

When I first moved to my apartment, the block was a small neighborhood. Most of its residents knew each other, if not by name, by appearance. People greeted each other with a smile and nod of the head, often stopping for an extended catch-up-on-things chat.

In the fifty-plus years I’ve lived here, the area has changed with the ups and downs of the city. Attempts to complete a subway line with a major stop on the end of my block was a terrible disruption. The first attempt stalled due to lack of sufficient funding. The second, after twelve long years, was successful, but it was a painful process physically and psychologically.

Hundreds of workers (strangers all) poured in, and with them, incessant ear-splitting noise--from drilling and dynamite blasting that damaged hearing—and continual blocked streets which resulted in incessant nonstop honking and sirens. Relatively clean air became heavily polluted. Talking to acquaintances was impossible because one couldn’t hear over the din. Smiles substituted in a small way.

Upon completion of the project the sidewalks became so busy with hordes of employees hurrying to one of the four major hospitals a short distance away that often I’d had to wait several minutes to venture to the far side of the sidewalk. So much so that more than once I had to ask my doorman to help me. And the neighbors who I recognized, caught up in the midst of the jam, dared not stop to talk at risk of being bowled over. The new rushing pedestrians certainly had no time for a smile, a nod of the head, or even a glance. My neighborhood as I’d known it was gone.

Now another momentous shift is underway. After the first early days of the pandemic, when the streets in my neighborhood were eerily empty, people are now venturing out again, though in much smaller numbers. Mask-wearing discourages conversations between couples walking together. They, and it seems everyone else, are plugged into a listening device. It’s very quiet out there. Is this the way it’s always going to be? One small thing that has gotten better during this dreadful time, I thought. I no longer had to worry about getting knocked down.

But the other afternoon, when I walked toward the corner of a major intersection that once had been especially busy and therefore dangerous for me, and then, with the pandemic, been transformed into a quiet mini plaza, once again I found myself having to stop, skirt around, and dodge pedestrians. There was a fast-moving couple with a young distracted child on a scooter trying to keep up with his equally distracted parents, and a couple looking down into bags, checking to see if they’d received what they’d stood in line to order, and two young women engrossed in conversation unaware of anyone around them.

Then the light changed to green and a crowd of pedestrians moved as one toward me--forcing me to stop before I could turn the corner. When I started to move forward again, I jerked to a stop, as a young man staring down at his iPhone, broke into a run, assuming everyone else would yield to him.

Get used to this. I smiled. This is New York as it was before the pandemic--busy, noisy, chaotic. In due course, crowds, which I used to hate, but now miss, will return.

Tales of the Whetstone River: The Grandfather Clock

They tell me that the apartment building I live in is old, that it’s wearing out. This seems strange. To me an old building is one built at least a hundred years ago. Here in the East a few historic buildings are pre-Revolutionary, built in the mid 1700’s. Mine was constructed in 1963.

But last week I could not deny the “wearing out” label.

When I went to the kitchen Monday morning and hit the switch on my coffee pot (set the night before to instantly brew my first cup), I saw a pool of water on the floor. I called down and handymen from the building hurried up in an attempt to prevent the water from damaging the apartment below me. When they opened the cabinet door beneath the sink, water gushed out. After inspecting they told me three pipes below the kitchen sink had rusted out! They turned off the supply pipe, and departed, giving me two instructions as they closed the door: Call an outside plumber right away, and don’t use the kitchen sink.

Fortunately, in a building-wide preventative effort to counteract massive leaks from the HVAC system, plumbers had already been scheduled to work in my apartment on the following day.

For six days (all the while washing my dishes in the bathroom sink), two plumbers were omnipresent in my apartment. Cutting pipes created a smelly smoke so they opened windows, and I opened the terrace door. There was loud clanging and hammering, and the men vocally added their share.

The master plumber, Andrew, who spoke with a Slavic accent, would call out to the apprentice, Karim, to fetch this tool or a specific size washer. Time after time, Karim didn’t understand, and he’d hand Andrew the wrong tool or piece of hardware. Each time this happened, Andrew complained and harangued, raising his voice, thinking perhaps shouting louder would aid understanding.

I thought of using earplugs. But every so often Andrew would ask me a question, and even without them, I couldn’t decipher his words and would have to ask him to repeat. Then he’d shout at me in response.

At one point, when Andrew asked Karim to fetch a wrench from another room, I found myself adding to the din.

“Karim! Karim! Where are you?” Andrew yelled.

“Karim’s in the bedroom! He’s coming back with the wrench right now,” I yelled back.

As the day went on, I was tempted to help out because I now recognized the required items and could provide them faster.

The men had come early, didn’t stop for lunch, and after five hours of bedlam, I was frustrated, exhausted, and wanted them out!

Once the work on the HVAC units--but not the pipes in the kitchen--was finally completed, we had to wait for the super to come up and inspect the project. As Karim waited, he looked around at my plants and art in the living room.

Then his eyes lighted on the tall grandfather clock in one corner. With amazement in his voice, he said, “That’s a very fine clock.”

I thanked him.

“And it’s very old.” He looked star struck, “It must be twenty-five, maybe even thirty years old!”

Doing some quick math, I told him, “Thirty-four.”

It was a gift to my late husband in recognition of his employment for 25 years.

With an abrupt shift in the conversation,” Karim asked, “Do you have children?”

“Yes.”

“Boys or girls?”

“Boys. Men,” I corrected myself.

“I have three girls,” he said with a big smile. “I came from Bangladesh alone five years ago. My wife and two daughters came four years ago. My youngest was born here.”

With that, he pulled a photo of three beautiful small girls from his wallet and handed it to me. I refrained from showing him photos of my sons.

Then he turned to practical matters. “My rent for my small one-bedroom apartment in (he named a neighborhood distant from Manhattan) is $1,200 a month. I earn only $1,500. I’m not a plumber, only a helper. It’s not possible.”

I understood. He didn’t need to itemize his other expenses for me to understand.

He went on, “I have a green card. In three years I hope to become ...” He threw his shoulders back seeming to grow a few inches, and continued, “an American citizen.”

At that moment I appreciated how lucky I was to be sitting in my apartment, rusting pipes and all.

As he left, ignoring the unspoken tipping “rules,” I handed him the same amount as I gave Andrew.

As I closed the door, the clock chimed.

Tales of the Whetstone River: Hues of Teals and Taffeta

I took the greeting card out of the brown bag and propped it on the music holder. It seemed perfect for the occasion. I felt lucky to have found an anniversary card that I hadn’t already given to my son and daughter-in-law.

That usually pleasant task hadn’t always taken so much effort, but shopping has been revolutionized during my lifetime. When I was a preteen I ordered blouses from the Sears Roebuck printed catalog--a 160-page tome weighing almost two pounds. I carefully filled out the form in the back of the book, wrote the item number and color that I wanted, stuck it in an envelope with the correct number of dollar bills, licked a stamp, and stuck it on the envelope. Then I’d ask my sisters to drop it at the post office when they went to town.

In high school I had the wonderful pleasure of browsing through Mamee’s small dress shop (too expensive for me), and shopping at Penney’s in Ortonville. I could enjoy the true colors and finger the textures of the fabrics in both stores. One fall afternoon in Mamee’s I held up a deep green taffeta evening dress toward the window and watched as reflected sunbeams of the lowering sun set shimmering waves of greens as I swished the garment, imitating dance movements.

In August following my graduation from high school, my mother and I drove to Watertown. There, in larger stores with huge inventories, I excitedly selected my college wardrobe.

Later, when I moved to Manhattan, in what I now view as the golden years of my shopping life, I’d use my lunch break, not to eat, but rather to rush to Lord and Taylor’s on Fifth Avenue to search for sale items. The structure itself was grand with brass doors, marble floors and pillars, and I felt a transient sense of importance just upon entering the store. Once inside, mannikins sporting the very latest couture creations were displayed on pedestals high above my head. Even if a shopper couldn’t afford them, she now knew what stylish women would be wearing during the following season.

Shopping remained pretty much the same for me until a number of years ago. At that time almost all of the large department stores, after a series of downsizing, succumbed to a major change. Shopping, not in person, but on the internet had taken hold.

Young people were the earliest fans of the internet and began to shop entirely online. Gradually all age groups adopted this efficient, but dull, way of shopping. I hated it. There was no personal interaction. No clerk remembered your preferences and steered you in the right direction. And more upsetting was that I couldn’t see the actual colors of the garments. Yes, the sweater was blue, but what shade of blue? The digital photos were inaccurate. After placing my order and receiving the package, I learned that “turquoise” might describe a hum-drum shade of green. “Navy” could be a smudgy black. And size? A “ten” might be a “twelve” or even a “fourteen”!

Department stores and Mom and Pop businesses alike fell into bankruptcy. However during this tumultuous time, a few wonderful specialty stores that carried clothing apparel, household goods, and greeting cards managed to hang on for a year or two, then filed for bankruptcy, and closed. Loyal customers wrote notes of condolence and taped them to dusty store windows. My neighborhood began to have the feel of a ghost town.

Greeting cards, too, lost their popularity, supplanted by Facebook greetings and e-cards. I used to pride myself on choosing “just the right” card for each person. But in today’s world fewer cards are being printed, and even fewer designs are being created. The small shops within walking distance from my apartment carry identical ones.

Last week I traipsed to each one of these shops. As I examined the cards with appropriate greetings and images—working hard to avoid the overly sentimental and cliché-ridden-- I wondered: Had I sent that one last year, or the year before, or perhaps the year before that? Or had I merely considered it one of those times? At last I found a “new” one with a beautiful image and a perfect greeting. I bought it.

Taking it from the piano the next morning, I began to sign it. Then I stopped. It looked very familiar. I knew I hadn’t sent it. Then I remembered. The card was so remarkable that my daughter-in-law had displayed it, and I’d seen it on a recent visit.

Was I forced into drawing a card? Not my talent at all.

Instead I pulled out my stash of blank cards. After debating, I selected one with a beautiful image of an ilathera, a green-winged teal duck, on the front. It’s a replica of an antique engraving created using an especially time-consuming seldom-used technique.

After writing a personal message, but before I addressed the envelope, I held the illustration up to the window. The greens changed, shifting with the movements of my hand, just as the colors of that green taffeta dress had so long ago in that tiny shop on Ortonville’s main street.

Tales of the Whetstone River: Delectable Gems from Bill’s Illinois Garden

When I talked to my brother Bill that late July morning, he began rhapsodizing about the bountiful crop of vegetables growing in his garden at his home northwest of Chicago.

“It’s amazing! My tomatoes are at their best right now,” and he began to list four varieties ranging from those weighing more than a pound to the smallest, no bigger than a man’s fingernail.

“I can’t keep up with the cukes! The same with the zucchini. I pick the plants clean, and then when I go out the next morning, there’s another batch waiting to be picked.

“I’m packing a box of vegetables now. Going to ship it to Arizona. If I get the box to the post office in an hour, my friends will have it by Thursday. That way if they’re going away for the weekend, it won’t sit and spoil.

Then he began cataloging the items he was packing, interjecting how the unusually dry season there had affected each plant.

“And then I’m going to fill the box up with peaches.”

“Peaches? You had a good crop this year?”

“No, it’s too late for peaches here, and my peach trees never did produce a lot of fruit. A neighbor brought a crate down when he returned from upstate Michigan. They’re the best I’ve ever tasted!”

When he paused to take a breath, I quickly asked, “Bill if you‘re shipping your vegetables to friends in Arizona, how about shipping a box of them to your sister in Manhattan?”

“But you’ll have to be home to receive it!”

“And just where would I be going?” I asked, reminding him of the pandemic restrictions still in force here in New York.

The next time I called, there was a lot of background noise and it was hard to hear him. When I asked what it was he said, “I’m out in the garage rummaging for the right-size box for you.”

He began asking which and how many vegetables I’d like. “My green and red peppers this year were the best they’ve ever been. And the yellow ones were phenomenal. Sorry there aren’t any left.”

“Do you have any of the little ones? Last summer when I visited you, there was a small light green one that had just the right amount of heat. I chopped it and added it to my salad.”

“A jalapeno? I’ll check the garden to see if I still have one of those.”

I continued with my list. “Tomatoes! Every kind of tomato you have. And a couple of those Michigan peaches,” I added.

“Sorry, they’re all gone. But I do have some peach cobbler I made, though I’m not sure it would survive the trip.”

“That sounds so good! Give it a try.”

Bill ended our conversation by reminding me yet again when I had to be home to receive the perishables.

When the doorman called on the appointed day, he said, “The box seems to be leaking.”

I assumed the liquid was water leaking from an ice pack. When it was brought up to me, the box was soggy, the cardboard disintegrating with only the shipping tape giving it any shape. There was no need for scissors. As I began to tear it open I looked at my hands. They were red, looking as though I’d been through some kind of violent brawl. That wasn’t water. It was tomato juice.

Here’s what I pulled out of the falling apart box: four ears of sweet corn still in their bright green husks, two super-size zucchinis, two super-size summer squash, one giant cucumber with a mini one tucked near its side, five small “new” potatoes, one small jalapeno pepper, and four varieties of tomatoes, ranging in size from half-pounder to fingernail size.

I searched through the soggy remains of the box, my hands now a horrifying shade of red. The box had contained no peach cobbler, but it had been filled with a whole lot of homegrown love.

Tales of the Whetstone River: A Bruised Autumn

September has always heralded a new beginning for me. A season of renewed energy. As a child, the new school year brought a new teacher, perhaps a new classmate, and certainly a chance to do better academically.

This feeling of excitement continued through my high school and college years. Later I taught English in Thailand as a Peace Corps volunteer. In that tropical climate there were no turning leaves or crisp air to signal that special time. But there was the same anticipation, and a challenge that I must do my best.

When my sons were enrolled in school, that anticipation was doubled with my hopes for both of them to make life-long friends and excel in their studies. They were still in elementary school when I was hired by a small college in my neighborhood.

Each September in my position as the director of international students there, I welcomed young men and women from all over the world who I’d communicated with only by mail. It was an exciting and satisfying time for me as I spoke each of their names for the first time and shook their hands. I gave that greeting with hope that each of them would make a smooth transition from their country’s culture and system of learning into the American culture and system.

Even after I retired from that job I’d get a pang of nostalgia and a surge of energy each fall when I saw schoolchildren in my neighborhood, neatly dressed with freshly combed hair hurrying to school in the morning, and returning in late afternoon, sometimes with clothes in disarray and messy hair after a sports program.

Throughout the central plains, the corn is ripening and will be picked, and the leaves will perform their annual magic trick of turning from green to vibrant colors, but this September, in the age of coronavirus, all is in question. Will there be that feeling of new beginnings? Will I hear my grandson’s excitement about his new classroom? Will I watch the schoolchildren in my neighborhood?

In DC my nine-year-old grandson is about to begin a new year in a new school. Will he be learning online for a full day at home? Or will he attend school physically for part of each day or of each week? Or will his school’s initial plan have to be jettisoned as the flu season begins?

Everyone I speak to, in person or on the phone, no matter where they live, or whether they have young children or young grandchildren or no children at all, echoes my question. What about the students?

Tales of the Whetstone River: More About Weeds

Last week I was reminded of how nature can hand us a treasure if we‘re willing to observe carefully and be patient.

While I was in upstate NY, away from my apartment in Manhattan, weeds had joined forces with my ivy and jade plant to give green life to my terrace. I’d been back two weeks when a friend looked out through the terraces’s grimy windows and said, “There are weeds growing in your flowerpots! Why haven’t you pulled them out!”

“I’m not sure I will,” I told her, “I’m enjoying them.”

The next morning I stepped out and looked at the weeds more carefully. There were three varieties. A tall one, awkwardly reaching toward the small amount of sunshine available, another with several bushy heads, doing just fine, and a third that seemed to be clinging for life on an ivy runner.

A few days later my friend stopped by again. We both stepped out onto the terrace. 

“When are you ever going to pull those weeds!” she questioned.

“I don’t think I will. Look at them carefully. Each one is unique.”

“Well you certainly could pull that puny one that’s wrapping itself around your ivy.”

To make my argument stronger (who knew one of these might be an endangered species), I decided to identify them. Searching through agronomy websites I determine that one is a white fleabane. 

I couldn’t find the other two. I took a photo and emailed it to my agronomist brother John.  Then he in Indiana, me in Manhattan looked at the photo together. One is a mare’s tail. He says it’s the bane of farmers throughout the country.

“I’ve never seen the other. Not native to the central or northern midwestern states,” he tells me.

So one remained unidentified. It wasn’t adding much to the grouping, and I was tempted to pull it out, but looking closely at the little plant, I saw an emergent bud.

I can’t pull it now, I thought. I have to see what the flower looks like when it opens.

I checked on my plants again in the early evening. There was now a small flower on the plant whose life hung in the balance, but it was drab, almost colorless.

In the early afternoon the next day, as I was about to sit down for lunch, a speck of white catches my eye. To my surprise, the flower had evolved into a delicate sphere of hundreds of white filaments.

The plant continues to bloom, going from bud to flower to a perfect ball of white fluff in twenty-four hours. Similar to the way a teenager, overnight it seems, turns from a gangly kid to graceful young woman, my weed goes overnight from nondescript blossom to a perfect ball of white fluff.